Hey, gorgeous. It's Denise here, welcome to chill and prosper. My podcast about money, money mindset, marketing, all the things. And today we're talking about three lessons we can learn from greedy, rich people. Now don't turn this off. It's going to be fun because yes, there are absolutely lessons. We can learn, not just cautionary tales, but we will end with that, but absolutely lessons that each and every one of us can do it... Can learn from it. So I know we are in a very strange period of time and things go in pendulums and income inequality is one of those sign that builds and builds and builds. And then sometimes a revolution happens and then it goes back again. And so we are in that place again, where like greed is good and a lot of people get away with greedy unethical behavior.
And I'm frankly sick of it. I'm so... This world could be so good for everybody. Like my country can be better for everyone. Your country can be better for everyone. And I'm so over people who wreck the planet, they don't pay their taxes. They contribute to ongoing economic inequality for people. And there's no need for it. There really isn't.
So what do we do about that? And this is where my mission is so strong for me at the moment. I don't think I'm the only person who can ever talk about money. I just want to contribute a little bit to your life and help you gain financial independence for yourself. And financial independence looks differently for everyone, but I want you to always have faith that you can make your own money and you can do everything that you want to do. So everything on your dream board and have peace and get yourself out of situations, if that's what money does. And where I come from on that is that I saw my mom. I saw my aunties. I saw my grandmother. They did not have choices. And it was purely because of money and it wasn't even that much money that would've given them freedom from those situations.
So when people talk about being financially free, it can be very like a bit of a gimmicky kind of word. But for me, that is, you know that you can make money. You feel okay making money, you can take care of yourself and your loved ones and the things are important to you. That's what drives me. And the way that I do that is helping you with your money mindset. Giving you permission to charge well for what you do. Being aware of your sabotaging behaviors around money. Okay? So I'm over it. I want more people like you to have money. I want ethical people to have money. I want people who can solve problems to have money and I don't think we can do that necessarily by toppling the rich, greedy people. I feel like we, need to give up the guilt and allow ourselves to have power as well. And money is power. Okay. So if you feel triggered by this, obviously it's totally fine, but I think we can learn some stuff from that, okay.
So you can be rich and nice. You can be rich and ethical. You can be rich and socially aware. You can be rich and kind, you can be rich in all of those things. So let's think about some of those people who aren't any of those things. Let's think about for a moment who are some of those people who are rich and don't give a crap about the environment. Rich and egotistical. Rich and want to punish people with their wealth. Rich and contributing to structural inequality. Rich and power hungry. There's so many examples of people like that. And I think we can learn three things from them. Okay. So I'm just going to switch to appreciation for a second, not to be a Dick about this, but just to go, okay, what have they got that I can learn from and transmute in a way that works for us?
Okay. So the first one is a lot of wealthy people and rich, greedy people have this real sense of destiny. It's like the opposite of imposter syndrome. It's such a waste that nice people have imposter syndrome. Wouldn't it be nice if you could donate it to people who have none? But they have this massive sense of destiny. I'm destined to be rich. I'm destined to do it. And they're confident that things are just going to work out for them.
And what I find is people who struggle with money, like nice people who struggle with money is that imposter syndrome can be so crippling. "People are going to think I'm a fraud." "People won't like me." "People will be mean to me." "And who am I?" "Who am I to decide that I want to make money?" "Who am I to think that I can write a book?" "Who am I to go into business for myself?" And so that's something that... It'd be great to borrow a little bit of that confidence and that sense of destiny that, you know what I am destined to be successful in my own way. It's safe for me to step up and do what I want to, and whatever that is for you, it's safe for me to be a writer it's safe for me to be an imperfect writer and like practice that sense of destiny. How would you go about your life and business if you had that sense that everything was going to work out?
And not that arrogant like, I'm the master of the universe sense, but there's enough for everybody and why not me too. I'm allowed to be successful. If someone else has done it, maybe I can do it as well. And so just see how that could live in your body. Would that change your posture? Would that change the way you hold yourself? Having that sense of destiny, that some of those rich people really have that confidence, that ease.
And when I think about my kids, I grew up with a lot of imposter syndrome and I felt uneasy in certain places. And one thing I want to teach them as they are growing up, incredibly privileged and wealthy, but I want them to feel comfortable in their own skin. And I want them to feel comfortable if we're in the fanciest hotel in the world, I don't want them to feel like an imposter, but I want them to feel confident in any situation whether we're on holidays. And sometimes you see that real poverty and you to be able to talk to people at any level and not feel like they're better than not feel like they're worse than anybody. And to know that money, isn't the thing that makes them good. Loving yourself and accepting your own skin is really attractive.
And so you can see it in rich, greedy people how it, switches to a sense of superiority, right? But also, that can be very attractive for people because they're so certain. And that's why sometimes people get conned by that personality because the certainty is so attractive. Right?
And I want you to reflect on some people that you look up to at the moment and what's attractive about them. And I think for people who are at attracted to me sometimes, it's that, I do role model self-love and acceptance. I don't talk about myself in a negative way and I'm comfortable in my skin. And I know that that is attractive to people. It's magnetic to people that I like myself. It's magnetic in a sales sense. Right? So when I have a launch, when I'm selling something, you can feel the energy, like I'm not desperate for you to join my program. I will like myself. If you don't join my program, I will like you if you don't join my course. And that certainty is so attractive to people, because I just go, "Hey, cool, I've got this thing. If you want it, like I've got it."
And there's something there about like, some people do want to be courted, but I think there's just something there about liking yourself that is really attractive for people. So that's the first thing I think we can learn from greedy, rich people is, I'm borrowing some of that self confidence and that self love, without having to tip into being grandiose or egotistical. And it's safe for you to love yourself. It's safe for you to like yourself. It's safe for you to feel confident in your sense of destiny. Okay. I've got two more lessons that we can learn from greedy, rich people straight after this quick break.
Destiny Wells: Hey, I'm Destiny Wells from south island of New Zealand. I'm a professionally certified and credential business success and freedom coach and Numerologist for [heartlead] women who are at a crossroad. I joined money bootcamp in 2016. When I joined, I was stuck in a toxic relationship. Dirt broke and scared to earn anything. Least the man stole it from me again. I felt alone, isolated, angry, and frustrated. I've been following Denise for a year or two, unable to take the plunge and join. Finally, I managed to scrape enough together, without him knowing, to make the first payment and trusted the rest will be there when I needed that. Since joining bootcamp, my biggest "aha" has been realizing how fear and scarcity based my upbringing had been and how much that had impacted my life up until then. I knew I was smart and had gifts to share with the world yet I was trapped and didn't know how to get out.
After joining bootcamp, I practically inhaled Denise's teachings. Did all the lessons, decluttered like a maniac, yep the man was one of the first things to go. Listen to the audio books over and over again, absorbed all the wisdom and support from the other Lucky bees. I've grown in so many ways and met many amazing women. I'm so glad I joined when I did, it's been a life saver for me. My life and my business are completely different. Now we're both on an exponential growth trajectory, sky's the limit. I highly recommend bootcamp to anyone wanting to change their money reality. I'm deeply grateful I found Denise when I did and for all the other Lucky bees in bootcamp.
Denise Thomas: Hey, and welcome back. We are talking about three lessons we can learn from greedy, rich people. What a fun conversation this is already. Okay. So we talked about that sense of destiny and confidence that can be attractive to people because the certainty is quite magnetic, but how you can use that in a good way. The second one is often greedy, rich people have a very single mindedness in building wealth. It's like money at all costs. But what can we learn from that? What can we learn from that? So I see sometimes people in business and you wouldn't think that they had something to sell because they never tell you what it is. I've been on sales calls with people who are trying to sell me into their thing. They never tell me how I can join their program and they never ask for the sale. So of course we don't have to be single minded in building wealth for wealth's sake and building money for money's sake. But we can learn something about that. Where's your money can coming from? What mechanisms have you got to let people pay you?
I did a whole post about this so you can check it out. I bought 64 E-courses and this is what I learned, something like that. And I spent $6,000 buying courses and I bought like over 60, right? And I was just laughing at how much people were just... They did not want me to give them their money. There was broken links. There was unclear sales buttons. There was over-complicated processes. There was like hardly anything for sale. And I want you to really have a bit of a money audit in your business and say, "Am I making this really easy for people to give me money?" "Am I telling them the next step?" "Am I reminding them?" "How I can help them?" Because if you are just in the business of putting out pretty pictures and pretty quotes and things like that, people will consume that happily. You might get likes. You might grow your social media following. But unless you're actually building money and building wealth and receiving money, that's not a business.
So diddle with what you do in your business. What actions you take in your business? What income producing activities have you done recently? Have you got a sale on? Are you doing a launch? How are you telling people? And I see it's so easy to do this. It doesn't have to be sleazy. It doesn't have to be evil. It doesn't have to be ruthless. It's just telling people how you can help them. So that might mean on your website, a buy here button, click here to join my program. It could be a call to action at the end of every single blog post. Tell them what to do next.
If you liked this article about how to make your own website, click here. I can do it for you. Do you want me to do it for you? Click here and buy my website in a weekend package. Did you like your horoscope for this week? By the way, I do one to one horoscope sessions, click here to buy it. And it doesn't have to be on every single one, but it can. Are you sending out your newsletter just to entertain people or sending out your newsletter to tell them how you can help them? Newsletters can be useful for people, but are newsletters really going to make the change that they need to make? That transformation, is that going to come from a newsletter? No, it's going to come from you working with them, having an audit with them, giving them step by step, giving them accountability. That's what's going to do it.
So just do a little bit of an audit there and like "Am I telling people how I can help them?" Okay. Same with manifesting. Marketing is manifesting clients, marketing is manifesting money. And if you are just like, "Oh, I'm just going to light an abundance candle." That's not, building money necessarily. That stuff helps. I love doing that stuff, right? I love [inaudible] money manifesting practices. But I also tell people about what I do and I am telling you now, if you want to come and join my money bootcamp, if this is the next step for you to really work on your money blocks, it's at Denisedt.com/bootcamp. It can be as easy as that because there'll always be one person listening who goes "Actually, that's exactly what I need, Denise. What's the URL again?" "Well, thanks for asking. It's Denisedt.com/bootcamp."
It doesn't have to be sleazy but I can, we can really learn that from these rich, greedy people is that they're like, "it's all about the money." It's not all about the money for us, but you can tell people about what you do. You can tell people how they can help you. You can receive the money, you can set up your invoices. You can send invoices, you can chase up invoices and you can be a little bit more cognizant of those money making activities. Okay?
So what's the third thing we can learn from rich, greedy people. Now, I always say to people, "Everyone's got money. Everyone has money blocks," right? Everyone does. But the truth is that some of these rich greedy people really don't, they 100% believe that they deserve that money. They, don't go, "Oh, I feel so guilty about making money. Ah, people are going to ask for refunds." They do not care. They're just like, "Give me the money, show me the money."
So what can we learn from that? Okay. Obviously you care about your clients. You are never going to get to a place where they're just number dollar signs to you. So don't stress about that. It's just not in your nature. But it's okay to believe that you are worthy of making money. It's okay to believe that you are deserving of making a living, doing what you love. It's okay to spend money on growing your business. Okay? So it's, you're not going to turn into a rich, greedy, horrible person. You really don't. You don't have to sacrifice your values and integrity. You can pay people. Well, you can be environmentally conscious. You can be really fair to your clients. You can set loving boundaries without being a bitch. You don't have to sacrifice your health and wellbeing. You don't have to sacrifice your friends and relationships. You can absolutely serve people and make money at the same time.
So the lesson for of that, and it's the affirmation I always share, which is I serve, I deserve, I serve people. I have something to offer. I can transform people's lives. I show up, I care. I give a lot of information and I deserve to receive in return. I deserve for some people who read my book to join my money bootcamp. I deserve to receive the money from that work that I did. I deserve to make money from, I don't know, speaking. Whatever it is for you, because you're not going to be a horrible person. However you are now is how you'll be with money. Exactly the same. If you are a nice person, you'll be a nice person with money. If you're a bit of a bitch sometimes, I'm a bit of a bitch sometimes you'll be the same with money. Okay?
So the things that we can learn from them. I deserve this money. You could just start with that. I serve, I deserve. It's safe for me to make money doing something I love. It's safe for me to build wealth. It's safe for me to make money, helping people with their problems. Okay? Because I really see it. They a hundred percent deserve it. They're not up at night going, "Oh my God, people aren't going to like me. And I'm not sure I deserve it." Can you imagine? Think of the richest greediest person you know. They're not doing that. They're not tapping in a mirror. "I deeply, completely love and accept myself." They do not, they don't care. So we can learn a little bit from that and that it's okay for you to receive money.
It's okay for you to work on your money blocks. It's okay for you to do it because, here's the thing, out of all these three things right? The sense of destiny, the single mindedness in building wealth, not having any imposter syndrome or money blocks, right? Allowing yourself to receive money for what you do can have such a big ripple effect. Okay? First of all, you can take care of yourself and your family. That's priceless. Making sure that your kids have everything you need. Being able to spend time with your loved ones, maybe caring responsibilities. You might not have kids creating ease and flow for you breaking the cycle of poverty and dysfunction in your family. Being able to take care of family members. Like I support my mom. I support Mark's mom. It's amazing to be able to do that.
Being able to support causes that you like building wealth in your community, hiring people. Hiring people at all stages of your business, hiring people at home to help you. And then that having beautiful... An appreciation for money and just being clean with money, that is going to have an impact for everyone you come into contact with. The people that you hire, the clients that you work with, even suppliers that you work with. It's going to have such a beautiful ripple effect. And when you give yourself permission to make money, it gives so many other people permission as well. So yes, I appreciate those greedy, rich people, just a little bit today, for teaching us these lessons that we can learn for ourselves. And then that we can use to make more money and create good in the world. We can make money and change the world. I absolutely 100% believe that. Okay. It's safe for you to make money. You serve, you deserve, but don't go away. I've got one more final thought for you after this short break.
Angela Lee Brya...: Hi, I'm Angela Lee Bryant and I live in a small village near Oxford in the UK. I'm the founder of Angel Rated an independent review site where you can add and read reviews of all the courses, coaches and tools you've used to build your online business. In my spare time, I swim in the local river and have just finished a challenge where I swam multiple times a week. All through the winter. I joined money bootcamp in 2018. I was at Heathrow on my way to Los Angeles for work and remember sitting in the cafe on my laptop and signing up just before I boarded the plane. I'd thought about it many times before, but looking out over the airport, it just felt like the time was right to take the plunge. I'd read Denise's books had attended her events in London and had always loved her vibe and down to earth approach. So it seemed like the logical next step.
Soon after joining bootcamp, I uncovered a massive money block. That I couldn't, or shouldn't earn more money for myself than I did as a paid employee. I'd set a ceiling on what I could receive that matched my old corporate salary. It was a real eyeopening moment. Bootcamp is one of those courses that you return to over and over again. I'd absolutely recommend it to anyone who wants to dig into and shift their beliefs around money. We all have so many to uncover and it's amazing to have the support of Denise and the wonderful Lucky bee community to help you work through them. I can't wait to see what the next year brings, and look forward to helping more people find the perfect person, program or platform for the next stage of their business growth.
Denise Thomas: Hey, gorgeous, welcome back. And this is my final thought for today is guilt. Guilt. Guilt is such a wasted emotion. And I find that so many beautiful people or really let guilt derail them from making more money. And I just want you to ponder on that for the next couple of days, where is guilt showing up for you in your life and business? So it could be guilt around hiring help to help you at home. Cause you think, "Oh my God, I'll be such a bad mom." Or "I feel so guilty that someone else is cleaning my house." Instead of realizing you can use that extra energy and time to create abundance for so many more people, including the person you hire to clean your house, right? Guilt for you might be, "If I grow my business, I won't be a good partner or a good friend or a good daughter or a good son or a good parent."
You might feel guilty whenever if you come to setting prices for your business, "Oh, people can't afford me." "Oh, it's not fair that people can't afford me." "Or who am I to make money doing something that I love." So just think about this as a wasted emotion at the moment. It means that you're just a kind generous person who, won't compromise your values and ethics to make money, because you'll be so conscious of all of those things. But feeling guilty unnecessarily is just wasted energy. So it's safe for me to make money without guilt or shame could be your affirmation for the week. It's safe for me to make money without guilt or shame. All right, gorgeous. I will see you next week for another episode, but peace out and chill and prosper. Bye.